Choosing What’s BEST for you instead of what’s GOOD
Heartbreak to Healing
How to utilize the Banquet Mentality for life decisions
On paper I'd say he met 99% of what I was looking for in a man.
He was nice, had a stable job and a great family.
But.
There was still something there that just didn't feel right. I ignored it continued to date this man. I really, really wanted him to be “the one.”
Things I told myself every time that the “not right” feeling came up:
“I'll just make it work; marriages aren't happy all the time.”
“We have a “good enough” relationship, better than most.”
“He loves me and he's nice; that should be enough.”
“Everyone else thinks he's great, why can't I just be happy with him?”
“Wanting more out of a relationship is just unrealistic.”
After two years of being with him, I came to a crossroads. He wanted marriage and I did too, but that feeling of “not right” was still there.
And then I did something completely uncharacteristic for me at the time, but true to the way God designed me- I chose the banquet.
What this looked like was telling him we needed a break.
What this looked like was listening to that small voice inside of me that said “you deserve more,” even when I couldn't see the more anywhere in sight.
I kept listening to God's still, small voice that seemed to be saying, “don't settle for the 99%, wait for the 110%.”
It was hard. It was painful. But it was worth it because banquet living is always better!
Fast forward to 16 years later (present day) and I am happily married to a different man who is 110% of what I always dreamed of.
Our marriage is fulfilling, deep, and inspiring.
I never would have known this life had I not stepped out and chosen the banquet God had for me.
This is what it means to have a “Banquet Mentality,” and it starts with realizing we not only deserve the best, we were made for it!
And God wants it for us too!
See you in the Rising Tide!
RyAnne
About the Author
In 2021, RyAnne's journey took a profound turn as she embraced her role as a wholeness strategist. But her mission to heal and uplift began much earlier, grounded in an experience no one should have to endure – the heart-wrenching loss of her stillborn son. With vulnerability and grace, she shared her personal story, transforming her pain into a beacon for others.
Over the past two years, she has been a pivotal force behind "Grief Share," a national grief ministry reverberating in the halls of churches across the country. Every session, every testimony she shares, lights up the path for countless souls navigating the treacherous terrains of loss. RyAnne isn't just changing lives; she's redefining the journey from grief to wholeness.
